One of the key components of a successful life Lived on Purpose is structure. If we are to be the architects of our life, we must follow a sequence of behaviours that create a pattern in our day and provide us with a measurable outcome.
First we must understand the 'ground' we are building on: Who am I?, What makes me the person I am? Why do I react in this way? When am I at my best? We might need to excavate some old programmes, beliefs or actions to make way for the new. We can do this through creating moments of 'silence' in our day, a time when we can stop, turn off the demanding 'got to' thoughts and listening to our inner voice. Enhancing this action by questioning the programmes we are running and deleting the outdated ones and reflecting daily on all that we have learned and openly and enthusiastically expressing our gratitude.
Then we must 'design' the life we want to lead - sharing ideas with experts and people who want the best for us. Engaging professionals to help us delete those pesky old programmes. And then devise a clear plan to 'build' a sustainable life.
Keeping on track requires persistence, order and daily intention. Keeping records, reviewing and reflecting and maintaining a daily structure that propels in the direction of your goals.
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It may be that you are completely satisfied with your life, or sometimes a reminder is all you need to start to live the life you dream of.
Outside your thoughts - what defines the 'heart of you'? Who really knows you? And more importantly Do you know yourself?
As above (in our minds) , so below (in our body).... what we think projects out into our world through our words, thoughts and actions.
What questions (of yourself) are you asking daily?
Next time you hear or see a 'bumper sticker',slogan or someone sharing their opinion
- What do I think of that?
- Why do I think that?
- Does this thought serve me? (Is this thought going to move me towards or away from my dream/goal?)
We can so easily get stuck in our thoughts and all too often these thoughts turn into concrete beliefs and become intractable. You have met people like that haven't you?
Staying open to changing your mind, challenging your current belief systems and speech patterns is Living on Purpose. It is a powerful tool too.
When you notice behaviours that do not serve you any more, then you know that Thought creates Things - so ALL you need to do is change your mind, change your words and Transform your life
I won't tell you Transforming your life is easy......because you know that already
Taking baby steps, One degree of change every day will not only keep your eyes on your goal, your dream but it will also lead you gently, sometimes almost indiscernibly to the place you want to be.
We have explored the power of Routine, let us now look at Ritual
We often associate Ritual with a religious practice, but I believe its a human trait. Thinking about your morning ritual, what happens when the alarm doesn't go off? You're thrown into a spin. Rituals provide us with Security, they are tools that we have designed to order and manage our life. They make us feel safe, secure and purposeful. And the beauty is that we have the Freedom to choose and design our direction and purpose of our own lives by creating rituals.
When I wanted to give up smoking ...again! I made a decision to explore what smoking was really about. I observed smokers in groups and alone and noticed that they all let their cigarette burn away for protracted periods of time and actually inhaled little. I then took my research to my own smoking ritual. Deciding ONLY to smoke alone, undistracted and unhurried. I took my 'ritual' seriously, slowed every part of the process down and with purpose and intent smoked each cigarette. Within 2-3 days I found I was less interested in smoking, but I persisted: by day 6 I could barely put the cigarette in my mouth, the desire had left.....and I can report it never returned.
Do you have a Ritual that prevents you living the life you choose?
By changing one aspect of your Ritual: just slowing the process down, mindfully observing everything and repeating the practice until the desired change becomes easy.
And of course Creating Rituals for Transformation and Living a Life On Purpose
I was brought up in a household where routine provided safety, security and order. This was important to my mother as she had the difficult task of raising a disabled son and me her younger child. There was little money to spare but she routinely saved for a rainy day, christmas and for special events. The house was cleaned in order every day/week/tasks were carved in her being and I remember in school holidays helping with the chores of the day. Like many other families in the UK we washed on a Monday, Ironed on a Tuesday etc.
I saw the value in routine but decided that it wasnt for me. When independence hit I worked as a nurse which meant there was little or no routine in my shift patterns or days off. I ate when I was hungry and slept when tired. There was little order to my life and I took life as it presented itself to me, making and learning from mistakes and often making decisions which turned out to be unwise.
'I fly by the seat of my pants' a quote from the iconic film Pretty Woman became my mantra and modus operandi. I am ecstatic with my life and believe every twist and turn brought about opportunities for growth and learning. BUT I never reached my goals.
Every New Years eve I use my tools - the ones I teach here in 2020 Planning and evaluate my goals from the year before. I decided when my work routine was scuppered through ill health that I had to change my M.O. I needed to 'Make Life happen'. And Living on Purpose was rekindled:
2020 Planning will guide you to find YOUR routine. Using a 1 degree of change model your habits will become natural and life will become easier with every step.